L E T G O
Series #111
The Art of letting go;
This is something I learnt years ago, one of the hardest lessons...Life pushed me to that moment where I had to face all my ghosts, all those giant waves... I couldnt avoid them anymore. We, humans tend to hold painful/traumatic experiences back & we become easily addicted to them without even realised; We are afraid if we just let them go we will loose control over it and that's exactly where the lesson was for me. I had those ghosts with me for such a long time, maybe they were always there . I wasn't ready to simply let them go, they were part of me, I loved them despite they were preventing me from having a fulfilled life. It took me years to understand those ghosts, fears, worries, past loves griefs weren't mine anymore. I didnt need them anymore, I didn't want them...it was time to let them go...
I'm tired to read all those cliché quotes that as soon as you let things go the magic happens and new life enters into you. That's no how it works tho. I wish it was like that but nobody really tells you what happens after you let all that shit go. You then have to fxxxx digest it! You then have to bravely face all those shadows you were avoiding for years, your inner journey starts then! diving deep into your sorrows, your darkness, those hidden parts you always avoided. Those parts you can't deny anymore. The magic happens when you start feeling love/compassion for those dark painful parts; when you turn all that pain into love and beauty for your inner self universe (gold alchemy I call it) then it's when you're really letting all go.
Fear stops us from living a full life. It prevents us from reaching our full potential because we miss opportunities in order to remain safe. We worry that whatever we have suffered will repeat itself and so we avoid taking chances.
Risk is necessary if we hope to push our own boundaries and discover what life has to offer beyond the mundane. Wisdom comes from experience and taking into consideration our past helps us to make calculated risks.
The art of letting go turns fear into intention. It gets us out of our own head. Often, our fears and worries are just in our mind and letting these go by facing our anxiety head on makes us feel accomplished and courageous. It leads us to greater achievements.
The here and now is the most important, and really the only, thing that we have. Letting go requires us to be mindful about the present; to enjoy each day and each moment as it happens by quieting the noise in our minds long enough to open our intuition.
Our failures are where our life lessons lie. If we reflect on what went wrong, we are less likely to repeat the same pattern. If we do, or a situation is out of our control and we must, we are better prepared to handle the outcome. We needn’t dwell on our failures to take away the most valuable information that can inform our future decisions. We just need to properly acknowledge them and understand the reality. Then, commit to letting go.
Obsessing about the past or anticipating the future too much distracts us from what is right in front of us. It is important to analyze what we have been through so that it can contribute to what we do next. Mindfulness is key, it's a state of active, open, intentional attention to the present, the only moment that exist!
Trust is key
Letting go is all about trust — trusting your own decisions and instincts about what is best for you. When you have done all the ground work and developed your perceptiveness about how to strive for your goals and build your achievements, letting go becomes second nature. The hardest thing to do is to surrender control in life. We all want to hold onto the reins of our lives tightly and to be able to steer our destiny in the direction we desire. We like to think that we determine what happens to us and that the outcome of our life’s challenges are our responsibility alone. Letting go feels like losing control, but it isn’t. It is actually assuming complete control, not of what happens to us, but how we survive it. And that is the key to a happy and healthy life.
Expectations have a way of keeping us stuck because they lead us to fear certain outcomes. There are no guarantees in life, and there’s nothing we can really do to get the outcomes we desire when dealing with others. When our expectations or needs aren’t met, we need to respond rationally and appropriately. Sometimes this means setting respectful boundaries; other times, it means letting go.
The more you do to get out of your comfort zone, the more fear will subside. In life, do what scares you, and you’ll grow and succeed!
Although we should recognize and validate the impact that the past had on you, continuing to blame it for your current feelings takes power away from you. When you do that, you hand control to something that will never help you. The past is gone, and it will never cure you regardless of how desperately you want it to.
Sometimes we limit our abilities by believing that we cannot achieve something. If you trust in your skills, you will realise that accomplishing your goals is easier than you imagined. Have an open mind. Although many people will make the situation seem difficult, proving them wrong is your responsibility.
Practice gratitude, appreciation, and trust in the process.
Unwillingness to forgive and resentment will keep you locked in your bitter past and prevent you from enjoying life to the fullest. Remember that when you forgive, you are doing yourself a favor. Letting go isn’t possible without forgiveness.
Be Flawsome! an individual who embraces their flaws and knows they're awesome regardless 🌊
Mini stories from my 💙,
Lorena xx
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